If I were 22…

If I were 22…

I happened to stumble across this article by Guy Kawasaki, someone I’ve followed, growing up. To put it into context, my most read book ever is his very own “The Art of the Start”. Coincidentally, I’m still 22, so, sharing this article is a no-brainer, I guess. Here goes:

The instructions for this post suggested including photos of when you were twenty-two. This made me laugh because, in my case, digital cameras weren’t invented yet. But I digress.

As I write this, I’m three months short of the big six O. Here’s some advice based on thirty-eight years of living.

Challenge the known and embrace the unknown: Accepting the known and resisting the unknown is a mistake. You should do exactly the opposite: challenge the known and embrace the unknown. Now is the time to take this kind of risk because you have less to lose and everything to gain. Great things happen to people who question the status quo.

Be brief: Contrary to school, in the work place there are few minimums. In my entire career, I can count on one hand the instances when an email, presentation, or report was too short. The perfect length for everything is when it is “complete”—more is less, and “shock and awe” doesn’t work in business or war. Here are guidelines: email—five sentences; presentations—tens slides and twenty minutes; report—one page.

Tell stories, do demos, and use pictures: The most enchanting people tell stories, do demos, and use pictures to influence and persuade others. They do not belittle or berate. They paint a picture in people’s minds whether the medium is social media, email, in-person presentations, phone calls, or video conferences. There is only one Steve Jobs, but if you want a shot at being the next Steve Jobs, learn to communicate using stories, demos, and pictures.

Don’t sweat your first job(s): Over your lifetime, you’ll probably have five to ten jobs in two to three industries. Your first job is not going to be your last. It’d be great if your first job was to be the fifth employee of the next Google, but the odds of this are small. The only mistake you could make is taking a first job where you couldn’t learn anything, and if you can’t learn anything, it’s probably your fault. Just get in and work hard and stop thinking about finding the perfect first job.

Live in the present, work for the future: The day after you start work, no one is going to care what school you went to, what your grade point average was, if you were captain of the football, robotics, or debate team, or who your parents are. All that matters is whether you deliver results or you don’t, so work hard to make your boss look good (see next).

Make your boss look good: Your job is to make your boss look good. The theory that you should make your boss look bad so that you can advance above him or her is flawed. Trying to do so will probably make you look disloyal to your boss and stupid to the rest of the organization. You want your boss to succeed so that you can draft behind him or her.

Continue to learn: Learning is a process not an event, so you should never stop learning. Indeed, it gets easier to learn once you’re out of school because the relevance of what you need to learn becomes more obvious. Indeed, the day you graduate is when the real learning begins.

Don’t get married too soon: I got married when I was thirty-two. That’s about the right age. Until you’re about that age, you may not know who you are. You also may not know who you’re marrying. I don’t know anyone who got married too late. I know many people who got married too young.

Obey the absolutes: When you were young, it was absolutely wrong to lie, cheat, or steal. When you enter the workforce, you will be tempted to think in relative terms. As you grow older, you will see that right and wrong seems to change from absolute to relative. This is wrong: right is right and wrong is wrong forever.

Enjoy your family and friends before they are gone: Nothing–not money, power, or fame–can replace your family and friends or bring them back once they are gone. You probably have delusions of immortality right now—that’s natural. At least consider that while you may be immortal, those around you are not.

One more thing: When you were a child, you thought your parents were always right. Through high school and college, you thought your parents were always wrong. After college, you’ll realize that your parents were often right. And then, believe it or not, you’ll eventually become your parents. Wrap your young mind around that….

– Guy Kawasaki.

In the last 24 hours

In the last 24 hours

In the last 24 hours, I learnt the power of focus.

Yesterday, looking at my to-do list app on my phone (I use Wunderlist by the way; it’s awesome), I saw a long list of things I had to do within the work day. It looked unrealistic to do everything yesterday. In truth, it was actually unrealistic to get those stuff done in 24 hours.

But in my customary attitude of trying to carry the whole world on my head, I opened my laptop and started tackling the deliverables…

“Send a proposal to the client who…”

And then I jumped to the next task…

“Reply Reni’s mail with the quotation he reque…”

And then I opened PowerPoint to do the quotation…

And then I remembered the next task…

“Call Tobi and request for admin…”

And then I grabbed my phone…

There was a text I was yet to reply…

“Reply Mr Chukwu’s text…”

 

And then 35 minutes passed.

And I had only sent 1 text message. What an absolute waste of time.

I’m sure you get the lesson here…

Follow One Course Until Successful.

Then move to the next one.

When the man you love, loves someone else.

When the man you love, loves someone else.

You hurt and grieve.
You cry and dry your tears
He must not see you  weak.
You pray and hope he would see
that you’re meant for each other.
You lie down in pain.
You sink when you can soar
You float when you can fly
You loose sight of tomorrow,s sunlight
All you see is  today’s gloom
You wake up and wish for sleep
You sleep and see him in your dreams.
You keep hoping
but he’s fixed on the other woman.
You  call and cut off your call
You draft a text and delete, again and again.
You wonder who she is, what she looks like, what she’s got that you don’t!
Every woman you see around him is suspect.
You spy on him, read his mails looking for a clue!
Clueless you rest in dismay and utter abandonment.
Fluttered , clustered and scattered,
you begin to loose grip
Time goes on and nothing moves him any closer to you.
You see him dancing with you in your dreams
You did your best dance steps
But the other woman danced her way in
And they both left you  locked out.

Come here My dear.
Come dance with Me.
Hear my song within you,
Let the music drown your pain.
Lean on Me.
Let me wrap my Arms around you.
I love you so much more.

Look at my pains too.
I was rejected by those I loved.
I was betrayed by my very own ‘rock’
kissed by a traitor.
I was rejected and locked out.
When all I wanted was to come in.
I gave everything I had,
Till I had to give my Life
I got daggers on my hands and my feet.
When all I wanted was to give away my  love.

Let him go, set him free.
Don’t fight it, don’t force it.
He’s had his dance, and made his choice.
You will dance again.
And Your man will not let you go.
Let Me hold your hands.
Till your pain is gone.
I will stand here waiting,
Till you can smile again….
Dancing away with your OWN!

– Wunmi Cosmas.